The Year of Imperfection

Another year is about to begin and hope rises anew.  A new start is almost always a welcomed occasion for most of us.  Everyone’s chance to get it right; lose a few pounds, quit smoking, live by the budget, stop sounding like your mother…just to name a few.  All worthy goals and all achievable with the right set of circumstances, help and planning.

There’s one other thing you’ll need for a successful fresh-start: Grace.  Truth is, you actually need grace all the time, not just for a new year. 

Here’s my best prognostication for 2019:  You’ll have some wins and some loses, some success and some failure, some highs and some lows…me too.  I also predict that God will still be in control through all of them, His sovereignty will remain in tact, His mercy will still be yours for the receiving and He’ll graciously provide a way for you to get back on track when make a misstep.

This is life.  Imperfection is part of the gig.  We’re all flawed and hypocritical…isn’t is amazing that God loves us anyway?!  

• My observation is: I don’t deserve God’s favor on the basis of my actions.

• Reality is: I’m more loved than I ever thought possible; totally forgiven and blessed by God because of His amazing grace.

Our imperfections reveal God’s grace.  Our flaws demonstrate just how loving God is.  To think that He really knows you for who you truly are in the privacy of your own thoughts, and yet, He wants you anyway. 

2 Corinthians 12:9 But he [God] said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

If there's something better than being the object of God's grace, I can't imagine what that something would be.  It's going to be a good year.

Christmas Anticipation

It’s 6:07am, Christmas morning.  Last night we went to Christmas Eve service at church, then over to the grandparent’s house for a family gathering.  In the next hour the kids will be awake, presents will be opened and the post-holiday aftermath will begin; we call it the “Christmas hangover.”

I’ve come to realize that the best part of Christmas as a cultural holiday is the anticipation.  I look forward to signing along with the band on Christmas Eve and taking a few days out of our routine to spend with my wife and kids, among other things.  It’s the anticipation of this time that makes it truly meaningful and exciting to me.

As I anticipate Christmas each year, the thought has occurred to me that God’s people were anticipating the first Christmas for a much, much longer period of time; and with tremendous consequences hanging in the balance.  And yet when it came, very few people celebrated it. 

Today, and everyday I have the opportunity to be filled with anticipation.  Psalm 23:6 says Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the Lord Forever.  How incredible is the opportunity to live this day and everyday under the covering of God’s goodness and mercy?!  When I look back I can see the amazing adventures God’s goodness has taken me on, and the many ways He has cared for me over a lifetime.  I marvel when I think that when that baby boy was born one anonymous night in Bethlehem, He came into the world with all the vulnerability of an infant.  He took His first breath of open air as a baby, and His purpose in life was to die for me; to be my Savior. 

The incredible nature of the Christmas story; the wonder the shepherds must have experienced, the beauty of two new parents experiencing the birth of a child, the simultaneous simplicity and complexity… it all fills my soul with anticipation for the days to come.  Where will God’s goodness and mercy take us this year?  What incredible things will He do?!

One thing I do know, is that when it’s all over, I will dwell in the House of the Lord forever.  What a day that will be!  Speaking of anticipation…that'll be one breathtaking morning.

Drawing the Potential Out Of Those You Lead (Including Your Children)

Drawing the Potential Out Of Those You Lead (Including Your Children)

What do you celebrate?  What are the behaviors that make you tell your kids “good job”?  What are the qualities you admire in others?  If you’re leader, what attitudes to do you promote in your leadership?  More importantly, in your circle of influence, what are the behaviors and attitudes you’d like to see more of?

Some of my most valuable parenting and leadership lessons were garnered in my 20’s as a Youth Pastor.  I know, the Youth Pastor is generally regarded as the “Student Teacher” of the staff at most churches, but hear me out.  Here’s two leadership lessons I learned during that time that can be applied to any leadership situation (including parenting):

People will generally rise to the level of your expectations.
If the people you lead trust you, they will generally do their best to meet your expectations.  As a Youth Pastor I would occasionally take large groups of students on road trips; camps, conferences, retreats, etc…  I had 2 stated expectations of their behavior:
    1. “I’m counting on you to be respectful of God, me and your fellow students.”
    2. “I’m counting on you to take responsibility for yourself and make wise decisions.”

In 8 years of youth ministry, I can’t recall a time when a student blew me off and did their own thing instead.  I appealed to our relationship by “counting on them,” but more importantly, every student felt the weight of having someone they respected relying on their discretion.  When given the chance to lead themselves, they inevitably wanted to do it well.

2.   People will become what their environment celebrates.
When problems arise, I’m looking to be on the solution side of the issue because dwelling on the mistake or assessing blame doesn’t lead us forward.  As a leader it’s not my primary job to call people out for their mistakes, but to call them upward toward something better.  I may have an obligation to correct certain behaviors or attitudes, but if the full extent of my leadership is pointing out what’s wrong and executing disciplinary action, then I haven’t offered a better alternative.

One of my favorite things to celebrate as a Youth Pastor was “Grit.”  Some students were achievers and we celebrated achievement; but I was always looking for the kid scratched and clawed for a B- in math, not just the kid who cruised their way to straight A’s.  One after another, students with low self-assuredness began to rise above their previously accepted norm.  We celebrated grit, because I knew that grit would serve them well for a lifetime and I wanted to cultivate more of it.

This is when I decided, I want to be known for what I’m for, not what I’m against.  Celebrate your desired behaviors and attitudes in the people you lead when you see them, and you’ll begin to see more of them.